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Hi, I'm a 14-year-old girl that is always depressed no matter what happens. If something good happens, I don't feel anything....I have an anxiety disorder...I cry every night for at least 2 ...
Hi everyone, I've been sliding further into a depression the last few months, and have attributed much of this to suppressed childhood trauma, a failed marriage and an ex who chipped away at my ...
do you ever feel that you don't actually want to get better?
ok, i don't know how to explain this...
i've been diagnosed with depression...i have a lot of suicidal thoughts......
Im sooo emotional and I don't know why! Im crying and being paranoid. He mentioned his ex to some one telling them where she was from and even that made me pissed off. But it sounds like im some ...
i want 2 tell her but im scared of wut she'll do and who she'll tell. i dnt wunt my whole family to know and i just wunt to get sum help!...
blueboyjonn
I am feeling very depressed and want to die. help?
i was standing on the top floor of a multi story car park on saturday and felt like jumping off but my gf was there and she stopped me and took me home. i fear she might leave me because... well i just have a feeling. help me plz!
the thing i dont understand is if your so very depressed then how can you be ars ed to be on the internet!
looking for some pity i guess
baha_smokey
Best solution my friend is to ask her.Never assume the worse.Good luck.There are also toll free numbers out there to call when you want to talk to someone when you are in a depressed state.
jacko
See depression and suicidal thoughts at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on pages 2 and 5.
bfreein2007
um my ex wa slike this plese go see a doc
Robbo
Go to the samaritians they should be able to help you and will give you someone to speak to.
davidfletcher1@btinternet.com
Please seek help and support.
QueenBee
Don't give into this feeling - think of your loved ones. You seem to be at the bottom of your depression now, so logically, the only way is up - even if it's not straight back up to the top. Acknowledging that you have a problem is really good, so that's your first positive step. The next step is to get yourself to the doctors and explain truthfully how you feel so that they can give you help and medication. You need to keep these steps small so that each little thing you do is something positive that you can be proud of. Make sure your gf and family know how you are feeling, although they may not be able to help directly they could offer you support. The feeling you have over your gf leaving - if you explain that to her she will probably tell you not to be daft, and that she isn't going anywhere - she loves you very much. Always remember though that things like that are not worth taking your life for, in your situation this is easier said than done, but you have to try and remember that there is a big wide world out there with LOADS of people, experiences and things to do. If you can try and glimpse that sometimes and realise that the little space you might feel stuck in is actually a whole lot bigger than you think - and you can move! I hope you feel stable soon, and are able to get good treatment.
J
go see a doctor, asap, or if you feel an appointment is too long to wait, go to Accident and Emergency/hospital. They will have a doctor who specialises in depression to speak to you and see how they can help.
You say its all about your girlfr leaving you, firstly, no one thing will have caused this, otherwise how do you explain the vugnrability you had to become so so attatched to her so that your life depends on her, you must have had problems that the relationship has brought up, not that it was the cause (far from it) we all have 'stuff' but unless your ok with living with it- which you are not (otherwise the carpark incident wouldnt have occured), you need to get some help with dealing with the 'stuff' which is making your life so difficult.
Take care to let your girlfr know whats going on- that your getting help, otherwise she may feel like she wants to leave you as the real you has been swallowed up by your depression, but fears leaving you incase you kill yourself and she hasb to live with the guilt for the rest of her life, weather or not she should do, this is a fact, if you kill yourself, others will feel they are too blame.
You also need to find in addition to the help a doctor can advise (could be tablets, could be therapy, C.B.T, ...) That you need to build up a support network of people around you- family for most people are a good bet, but for many thats not ok (my family for example subtly refuse to change thier views on depression and so are not able to be of much support to me, others I know have families they reuse to speak to as they feel it makes their problems far greater, its each to thier own really.)Others I know have a family which seems to take place of their entire support network.
Friends can be of great support, not there to take away the pain, but to keep you going, keep you moving and be there just to listen, not to fix.
Girlfriends are also great for being there.
If you really are stuck for mates and family, you will also be offered a C.P.N or social worker who will be able to help you and support you until you dont need any more help.
Good luck, I hope things get better for you.
P.S, its an old cliche I know but try the samaritans, they are really helpful and are trained to help, the phone number is
08457 90 90 90
♥Rachel♥
The best advice I can give you is for you to go see a doctor.
bexxyb
well you sound right out of sorts!
first things is you need to find somewhere safe to sit quietly coz you need to take a few mins out.
if you have someone you can talk to apart form your gf -TALK to them!
if not -ring the samaritans. Theyre good people you know!
its horrible when you are in the pits your stomach feels so heavy all the time..
It sounds like you are going through a rocky time with your gf?
You need to talk to her when you feel calmer and find out about the way she is feeling.
Dont get me wrong -whether she does or doesnt leave she will think more of you if you are stronger and dont react so radically to something that may or may not happen.
You sound like other things have happened to you in life which you may need to talk to someone about to help with the way you feel.
This will help you with your relationships with gf and your peers.
You will be a stronger, better person when you have come through whatever your going through right now. Part of life is battling through, even when pain is sometimes unbearable.
Be strong. Take it day by day. Look to manage till tomorrow, then when you feel stronger, you can start thinking about next week, month, next year!
Finally dont rely on your gf to save you or not to leave you. You need to find your own strengths, rely on what you have inside.
Believe...be strong...You can do it!!
muse1988@btinternet.com
She should have had you committed for being a danger to yourself and others.
You need to get immediate psychiatric help so you can talk through your problems and maybe be put on anti depressants. she might leave you if you don't get help cause she will probably be in constant fear that your gonna attempt suicide at any minute.
♥**•.¸¸verbalkint♥**•.¸¸
go talk to a doctor, but please dont tell your gf if she leaves you will kill your self thats not fair on her, think of it this way you never know whats round the corner and there will be some good things waiting for you if you just see a doc and wait
Stephanie
Before you hurt someone or yourself go see a doc he/she will help you through this
stephanie_dee24
See, I am not being rude or anything, and I certainly wouldn't wish anyone to feel the way you are feeling.... but I just don't understand the concept of being depressed. I know that sounds really bad and ignorant, but I just don't understand it!
To me, life is ment to be enjoyed. You have no idea about happens when we die, the worse case senario is that there is nothing, thats it, we're gone. And if thats the case, and all that is left of me is people's memories, I want them to be good ones, full of fun times and laughter and positive things. I'm not saying I don't get down, but in general I am a very happy person, I enjoy life to the full everyday. I am thankful for the things I have, and the bad things that happen to me, well, they just make me a stronger person. And it's not that I have had a perfect life, i've been in relationships that have ended badly, i've had people close to me dying. But somehow, I don't let it drag me down..... It just makes me stronger.
Life is meant to be enjoyed! Life can be so unbelievably good where you can never imagine wanting it to end!! If the way you can get that is through taking anti depressants and that then do it, because life is so worth every single thing that happens to you!
So try to be happy and positive, I know that there are mental disorders that you may be suffering from, but you can get help for those things and carry on going! Because, life is just so worth it!!!
So see a doctor, get someone to help you understand exactly how you are feeling and why.
:-)
I hope that everything turns out well for you. With love
xx
doughnut1002001
hi, I'd love to say i have all the answers but truth is i don't, i go and I'm still going through depression.
the good news is there are people that can help, (no really there is)
contact these, they do support groups, help lines and lots of other things you could even volunteer for them when your feeling a little better
http://www.mind.org.uk/
also try:
http://www.depression.org.uk/resources/help.php?purpose=1
i do wish you would of gave us a bit more info as to why you feel depressed, or has it just come on recently ? maybe you could do something to improve the situation?
try taking better care of yourself try eating better take up exercising or a sport, quit smoking, drink etc, these will all make you feel a little better,
do go to the Dr you don't have to take tablets if you don't want to (although they can help and there's nothing wrong with taking them) your Dr might want to refer you to a councler or there might be an underlying health problem that's making you feel this way.
take care, and if you can give us some more info as to why your feeling like this that would be grate
just-dave
Suicide would be a permanant solution to what is definately a TEMPORARY problem, u have a small chemical inbalance that is causing these thoughts and urges, see your doc fast and get an SSRI anti depressant and in a month or two you will be looking back and thinking what the heck was all that about, depression is treatable, the correct meds will turn you around. Your girl loves you and will stick with you and actually she will see what a fighter you are and you will be closer.
Go and make that appointment, don't feel bad about it or ashamed remember that millions have been here and now lead a good quality of life, make the call now.
John D
Best option at the moment it to go to your GP and tell him/her you have been feeling suicidal. They will refer you to a psychiatrist or psychologist who will be able to tell if your depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in you brain or if it is caused by events in your life. If it is chemical then you may be able to be treated with medication if it is personal they can show you ways of coping with life when things look down. It can be quite intimidating going to a GP about these types of things but they are used to it and will quickly refer you to a specialist as they aren't really trained to deal with severe depression. The specialist can be of great help and are free so make use of them.
Good luck.
starlight
you still have your girlfriend and are being paranoid, if you had split up then i would be able to understand it a bit better but there is no point in trying to kill yourself because she will hate you forever. if you split up then send me a message and i will do all that i can to help you through the time.
Mr. Taco
1-800-SUICIDE.
Call them. It will make a big difference. Good luck!
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Next time bring bungee cable thats fun
essex_reject77
Without intending to be patronising to you, you have by asking this question made positive steps forward to helping yourself.
Obviously there is more going on in your life that you have not disclosed. It is these issues that you need to discuss and seek solutions.
With all respect, this is not the best site to seek the answers you are looking for. Be aware also, that your girlfriend will not have all the answers you seek, she maybe supportive of you, but the support will be limited. Its ok not to know all the answers, we are just normal people at the end of the day.
You are seriously best actually speaking to a person. This person could be someone over the phone, ie, a support help-line or you sitting and talking to your doctor.
Its ok to talk. Sometimes just having someone to listen to you, who does not know you, who will not judge you...... sometimes they can say something and you think 'yeah, I did'nt think of it that way'.
Don't give up, give someone a call or drop them an e-mail.
Think how lucky you are to have the gift of life, when everyday innocent people, even young children die. Think how lucky you are not to be a starving guy living in Africa suffering from aids or summit. So what if your gf leaves you there is a chance you could find someone else to live happily ever after.
Life is good dude don't trip.
XXkarlaXX
Arrrr
you poor baby, try and see someone to help u with this.
She wont leave you trust me but you do need to sort this problem out
Chin up :)
Andy F
If your GF didn't love or care for you, she wouldn't have talked you down on Saturday. Instead of looking at the negatives in your life, try focus on the positive things, like your girlfriend etc. What would she do if you killed yourself.
There are plenty of groups or people out there you can talk to, if you feel you cannot talk to your girlfriend.
Life is too short as it is. Don't make it any shorter for yourself.
Find a hobby or something else you enjoy doing and try to stay positive..
I wish you the very best of luck and hope you start to feel better soon.
Take care
Bitter is a taste, not a person.
Don't hurt your self like this, please. I used to have feelings like this too. but one day I just sat down and realized, that what i wanted was for him to be happy. so when he broe up with me, yes, I was devastated, but I had that thought in my mind that I just wanted his happiness and that is what let me get through it all. There is never a need for one to kill themselves. If you love them, Live for them. Don't die for that person. And If they want you dead, Still don't kill yourself. You should have the confidence to say, 'this Is my life, and this other person does not rule it. I am the one who matters and I want to live Because I am worth it.' and if you don't have that confidence yet, stand before a mirror and say it untill you believe it. Just because they leave you is not a reason to throw your life away, because as long as you're alive, there is hope for things to get better.
clara
Please don't do anything rash, I know how awful it is to be so low that you have these feelings. You've taken a major step in talking about it that's difficult to do, in doing so you have admitted to feeling like this and that there is a problem. You need to talk to someone other than your girlfriend, although she can help sometimes it's better to talk to someone outside the situation. Of course it's not fair on your girlfriend either, she probably feels powerless and frightened, no one knows how to deal with this situation when it's happening to someone they love. Go see your GP Today!! It's no good putting it off hoping the depression will go away, you don't need to suffer like this. It's like living a nightmare, I know!! Don't be ashamed of asking for help, people are only too pleased to be able to help, it's not a sign of weakness the opposite in fact as you're being brave enought to face it head on and are trying to get some sort of normality back into your life. If you need to talk to someone right now, the samaritans are only too glad to listen and they don't judge or make you feel embarrassed, I rang them once out of desperation, I've never told my family, so look you've helped me to open up too, you're not alone in this.
Please get help, if anything happened to you how would your girlfriend and your family feel? Your problems and unhappiness are the most important thing now and they need to be addressed in order for you to feel happy again. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, you've made the first step so things can only go forward now. Please take care of yourself sorry if I haven't been much help, I hope you get the help you deserve. All the best to you, we'll all be thinking of you I'm sure!!
heidi the ghosthunter
seek help NOW
liliremei
Blueboy, I wish there was some way I could reach through this screen and grab hold of your shirtsleeve, get your attention until you just talked and talked and talked and talked. You must find someone to talk to. These people listen so well. They really do. They are the Good Samaritans. www.samaritans.org.uk
lisa030683
i do feel for you but i would go for to the doctors an ask to be refered to see a councellor there are a lot of people who have fealt suicidal so don't feel like you are on your own hope you get the proper help you deserve
Heather C
first of all, i sympathize. im going through slight depression at the moment (recovering from worse) i had attempted on my life before and i understand where you are coming from about thinking your partner will leave you. If you still have problems after a while then go and see a councillor or your GP. Even talking to a close friend or family is good to do, it relieves you alot. Although you may not want to admit theres something wrong seeing a councillor is one of the best things you can do. I was once afraid to tell people about my problems but looking back im happy with myself knowing im getting help, there are people trained to help you so make the most of it =] and dont worry, if your girlfriend stopped you and took you home then im sure she truly loves you
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