** Stardust **
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everyone now and then experience it. it's just a part of life i guess. when i feel that way i turn to my family, friend's and of course my pet's. it will subside good luck. |
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paul h
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I think many because we all as humans need to around others!!! |
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shhhh_j
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We all do...Cause nobody is their to understand or know exactly what you are going through and sometimes you wanna tell them but realize that that might not be the best idea. I don't tell others cause I hate for others to judge me. You have to live your life. Life goes on...people come in and out of our lives from when we are babies up until we pass. That's the circle of life. Enjoy it or at least try your best. There is too much going on in the world to be numb throughout your life. My problems are my problems and I deal with them I don't share them cause they are my problems. Life is what you make of it and when life gives you a lemon...make lemonade. |
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Dani D
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I'm the same way....it will change once you are in love with the right person |
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TheDeanofGreen
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Human beings are coded with biologal tricks to make sure we continue to spread thy seed and keep the race going, so how could we do that alone? It is in our nature to communicate things to beings of our kind, and want to express ourselves, or just vent. There is just something unexplainable about being with people who you know truly care about each other. |
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Nonentity183
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I don't think that at all. |
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SlamDunker
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OMG i cant bare loneliness! i have 2 be w/ some1 @ all times. i fell bad 4 u. do u have a sibling?? cause if u do could defiantly trust them! or u could trust another 1 of your family members. |
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J E
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Only knowing what you are and being in touch with that will heal loneliness.
It's easy to explain but you'll have questions.... send me an IM on Y!Messenger. |
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charleigh
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Loneliness is one of the hardest things in life!...
Especially when your not actually "alone"...
I too have many friends however theres that line i draw when it comes to opening up to them!...
It must have been hard losing your mum at such a young age and this is probably one of the main reasons why you feel so alone!...
Trusting other people whilst in your situation is also a very hard thing to do!...You lose one person and you atomatically think that its going to happen again...you then avoid getting close to anyone else to avoid it happening!...I understand completely!...
Sometimes life can be such a struggle but it will get better!...
If you want to chat then feel free to email me!...I cant say ill be able to make everything better but sometimes when we talk it makes things easier!...
You could try going to a GP and asking for some councelling or some medication!...Just a small pick me up might do you the world of good!...
Take care...
Stay strong....
Xox... |
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lfh1213
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Human beings are tribal creatures, we flock, herd, group, or what have you as a survival technique.(Safety in numbers...) That you realize that you have a problem and you understand what lies at the core of it makes the problem half solved. If you have other family, try to establish relationships with them. Keep reminding yourself that NO relationship is permanent, death, time, distance, differences all make relationships ebb and flow. It is impossible to guarantee that any given relationship will be in your life forever and for reasons that have nothing to do with choice. Then, let people in when you can handle it. |
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adrianismusic
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I find loneliness unbearable sometimes. So yes, I'm with you.
I'm very anti-social though so that's the problem. |
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sub0k
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Yes, but for different reasons than you have listed. |
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eldude
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I don't know man I've been pretty dang lonely too and I have people around me just not the people that I want to be around |
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2 Random 4 Socks
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Yes, i have few friends, i dont get the ones i have now cause they are too different and i struggle making new ones. You're not alone, there are others who feel the same way. If you need to talk you can mail me if you like. |
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Bella83
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Loneliness can be a painful thing because we are genetically built to have a partner/companion. I have come into contact with 3 people that have this disease, and it's not a great thing to have. I believe high highs and low lows are part of it. And this can be very damaging on yourself and those around you (friends, family, co-workers). The people I have know sought medical attention and are on anti-depressants. To balance out the chemicals in your brain that go up and down/change your moods. I would suggest medication. This will help you. I was lucky to not get affected myself because one of these 3 people was my mom. So if there's family history, then you could have had it passed down, or simply developed it through stresses/trauma you have encountered in your life. |
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Some dude
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I literally have no friends or family (a few people at work I banter with, but it's been 6 months since I've "hung out" with anyone outside of work or anything). Makes my life pretty miserable. Hence I sit on yahoo to talk to people. I hate it.
So why is lonliness such a horrible thing? Probably in our hard wiring. Maslow's heirarchy says that humans are designed to have thier basic needs met. At first we require food - shelter - safety (etc), the most basic things to survive. If you have those, most humans next requirement they look to fill is a sense of belonging. You can't meet that one by youself.
Maslows Heirarch of Needs (from lowest i.e. most essential to highest last to be achieved) :
Physical needs: hunger thirst etc
Safety Needs: security protection etc
Social needs: sense of belonging love etc
Esteem needs: recognition status etc
Self actualization: reaching ones full potential and accomplishing the pinacle possible for you as an individual (most people will never approach much less meet this) |
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C o w b o y F r o m H e l l
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Because you feel unloved if you are alone..
Don't feel this way, ALL you friends luv you to bits :) |
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Magic Bus Driver
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Yes it can get get unbearable, who hasn't been there?
Comfort yourself in realising that this is the part of your life where you will experience lonliness and you will grow from it... |
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bravado
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Sweetie, I have a son who experienced what you are suffering. Yes, you are right, loneliness is a killer. Remember, the world is going at a very fast rate these days and people are also moving at a fast rate and therefore, no one seems to have the time to care for anybody else these days. People seems too busy to look at other people's needs through their kindness so, they forget that there are people out there who are not coping as well as they are in their busy lives. I know heaps of people who are very down with depression and it hurts me to see it. So, I go to a church where I can meet people like you to try and help them out. My son has changed since he found God in his life, it certainly made a big difference in his life and doesn't get depressed as he used to. I do hope that things will change for you to, at least you teach and you do have friends, you are not completely isolated. Perhaps if you take a holiday somewhere, it might take your mind of things and come back feeling refreshed. All the best anyway. |
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Gerry
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Feel free to email me if you ever wanna chat, not solving loneliness but its nice to have friends and make new ones. |
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PapaJon
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Loneliness is bearable when we are busy. Like I'm sure that when you are working with kids or whereever you are a teacher that loneliness is not your first concern. It helps also to find support groups for other people managing bipolar disorder and also actively take part in social gatherings. Yes, not everyone will understand you, but eventually one or a few will.
Both depression and bipolar disorders are issues where it is helpful both to have a psychiatrist prescribe medications as well as having regular therapy to help you with managing each. Medication alone cannot build strategies. Even people that do not have bipolar disorder or depression find it hard at times to meet people. So, there never really is a guarantee that you will rid yourself of depression or the symptoms of bipolar, but it's good to have ways of dealing with them. |
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laura k
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Lonliness is the most painful thing in life. Everytbody needs someone to tell them everythings ok nown and again. Find yourself friends and maybe a companiion you know you could trust. Theres no point worrying if they leave you because if you do that you will never have no one to care for you. |
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srracvuee
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yes i lost the dearest person in the world and that was 8 years ago , i cant let go and it hurts like hell but i cope because i have to but you don't realise the implications until it happens |
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Wanda S
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I am lonely too and I live a normal christian life..I have a husband that dont love me or me him..We dont even share a bed anymore..we just live in the same house..no affection at all..Things have happened between us that made me not trust him and finally quit loving him...I know what lonely is...its not good... |
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ksv
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Yes b/c its human nature to want to be with someone. |
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andrea.force
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Human beings are social creatures. We need both companionship and social structure in our lives to feel complete. When these are missing, it's not surprising that depression is the natural result.
You're dealing with bipolar disorder. I have a chronic pain condition. Both conditions can be very isolating as the conditions are often misunderstood by family and friends.
Most anyone dealing with a lengthy medical condition ends up "finding out who their real friends are." Don't mourn the loss of those who drift away. Do treasure the ones who stay. Meet new friends where you can (work, school, church, support groups, etc.). |
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Vanity Chick
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The problem is you won't let anyone in. I guess because your mother died. Your friends probaly feel you hide in a shell from them too. Don't sit down and wait for someone to come take you out your shell. Do it yourself because if you don't want to be lonely you don't have to be! |
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hillbilleechick
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lonliness is unbearable. we are all social creatures. thats just who we are. we spend our whol lives looking for the perfect person to spend everyday with.
i know that having bi polar makes it so much harder. my best friend, is like my second mother, she has bi polar, and she has told me she feels alone a lot, and she has three wonderful little girls, and a great man. i wish they would come out with something that can treat the disease. nothing helps for her.
i cant imagine losing my mother. i have so much respect for others that have been through it. i havent yet, and i dread the day that it happens, i think that would be the lonliest day of anyones life, losing their mother, especially at such a young age.
all i can say is hang in there. i can tell you are a great person. a loving person. teachers are loving ppl. you have struggled with that disease and still made it through school, went through a tramatic expierience like you mom assing away,... just the things you have listed makes you a strong woman, you will be okay. i believe there is someone out there for everyone. and you will know it when you find him. and you will learn to trust him enough to open u your heart to him. i used to be the same way.
you just have to be strong, and at the same time, let your guard down just a little. you have to let someone in a little. if you dont, you will never have real love. you know?
i hope all the best for you. and i know you will be happy again. you are a good person. it isnt right that you wont be. you deserve happiness and love. you just have to welcome it. |
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