Sugar Bear
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His family should have payed more attention to him as a child. He has learned from his surroundings or maybe tv....It could be a number of things |
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riss criss
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oh my gosh . he is 7 and on meds. when their brains are developing, psych meds can change up things.
I wonder about this boys diet and environment. is he in a positive environment and does he eat healthy?? If a child is hyper active, he should have limited refined sugars. ie: 100% juices and milk , no soda, no food coloring, whole grains, not chemically processed foods. diet can really help alot.
This makes me sad that this little boy is on psych meds. I'm sure it's doing more harm than good.
If you think his mother is not providing a healthy stable environment, take action!! |
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Andrea
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If he is on meds for ADD they could be causing depression which could set off the violent outburts and would explain his feelings. The fact that he is "different" from people at school at this age could be causing him to be teased and/or bullied which would cause him to hate school and the people there. You should talk to him, the teachers (espically gym/pe teacher) and counselor. Talk to his doctors about either adjusting the dosage of meds he is on or changing them. If he is not on medicine you should think about trying it. It doesnt always work but then sometimes it does. Hope this helps you a little bit. |
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emucompboy
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He will do better in high school, go on to college, major in computer science, and become a computer programmer consultant. He will become addicted to the future equivalent of World of Warcraft.
He will never get married, never have children.
In the meantime, you're going to have to try to talk him out of using weapons. Don't expect to be immediately successful. |
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g-na
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he just needs alot of love. |
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Kris10Heck
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It sound like your step-son has many emotional issues going on. Children at such a young age, have a very hard time expressing what is making them upset, or how they feel about things. And a lot of times, it is just that they feel like they have no control, no say so.
Also, he could be feeling like he doesn't belong. His father's remarried, and has (maybe) has children with his new wife. Your step-son could feel like his dad has a new family and doesn't need or love him anymore. As adults we know this to not be true, but children perceive things much differently than adults.
I would sit down with him and your husband, alone, no other children around. Tell your step son how much he means to you and your husband and your family. Tell him that he always has a special place at your home, at the dinner table, and most importantly in your heart. Ask for his input on things, such as, where he wants to sit at the table, or whether you or your husband picks him up from his mom's house.
I would consistently give him love, support and hugs. He needs this kind of reassurance. I am sure he has felt like his whole world has been shaking underneath him. He needs solid ground to stand on.
His acts of anger and aggression are his way of reaching out asking for help.
I can't stress enough, no matter how angry he makes you, tell him how much you love him, and you need him in your life. He needs this type of reassurance EVERY day, not just the days he is with your and your husband.
Sometimes, medication is not the answer. Sometimes the answer relies with us, and what we can do to help those we love. |
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Lyn
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mabey but test him for like phyopath or other stuff? |
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arelente2
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He needs to lay off those violent media things..
Was the issue with the divorce and the step-dad thing settled?
He just needs to know that he's loved.. that's it |
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jcox
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I don't know what you have against welfare doctors! Doctor's that accept Medicaid are just as good as others. Most accept all insurances. It just depends on the doctor. I would say that he sounds more like bipolar than ADD. I would say that he needs a medication change, and a new therapist. Not all Medicaid doctor's are bad! That has nothing to do with it. The doctor that he is seeing might not be the best but it is not because he is a medicaid doctor....he is just a bad doctor! I would reccommend that you try to convince the mother of this child to put him in therapy with a child specialist. I am the mother of a son who is four with bipolar, and a thirteen year old step-son who has ADHD. They have different symptoms and your son sounds more like my bipolar child. He is not too young for a diagnosis. Child specialists can do a full range of testing at his age. It mostly depends on whether his insurance plan will cover it at his age. They may have a minimum age...in MA for MassHealth (Medicaid) the age is five...but insurances will cover it before that with a prior authorization. |
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Sophie
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My son has ADHD and we've been told several times that if he threatens to harm himself we are to IMMEDIATELY take him to the hospital for observation. Only there can they tell you if he's being serious or not.
I have to ask...is he medicated? We tried very hard over a number of years to avoid medication, however nothing else worked. He just recently started medication and all our lives have improved. The anger subsided considerably and he likes his life now. Medication isn't always the answer, but if all else fails it can provide help to a child in need of mental stability. Make sure he's seeing a pediatric psychologist that specializes in behavior problems. |
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jamielynn
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Sounds like he needs to be on some type of medicine.I have a good friend that has a daughter and she has ADHD and it was just awful with her growing up but shes now 17 and she has learned how to live with it and control it.I know its a long way off for you but hang in there. |
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steensagenious
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He must still be dealing strongly with his parents divorce... how old was he when you came into his life?...
It can be VERY hard for some children to adapt.. so they feel that they need to act out in order to compete for attention.. could he possibly feel second choice to the children you might have?...
maybe you and your spouse need to sit down and go over things.. then plan alone time with you and the boy... then your spouse and the boy... let him know that he is loved and apprectiated.. and that he is not being replaced and you are not trying to take the place of his other parent.
I guess the only thing left is prayer.. I KNOW that works. :)
Good luck,, I'm sure it is difficult and can definitely put a strain on family relationships.. |
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BigBadBob(Admin)
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i feel ur pain my bro has been diagnosed with adhd since he was 2 and was sent 2 physc ward and was diagnosed wit assbergers
a form of autism Just this pass month
hes now 12
email me |
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Doodlestuff
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You do not indicate if your wife has custody or not. I would call CPS not to report the family, but to get some direction as to who to contact for help. Social Workers often know exactly the right contacts. If you don't want to go this way, try contacting a Children's Hospital in your state to get directed to a child psychologist. Also, some violence in children is the result of illness, such as brain tumor.
This kid needs help now before he does injure someone. My cousin had problems with his oldest child at 5 years old (has ADD and is autistic) and he is doing MUCH better at 9 with proper diet and medication. He is now what you would call high functioning autistic, and is in regular school, but only because the violence problems have completely abated. |
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Jade
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It seems like he is angry. He need to learn how to talk about what he is angry about. It could be the divorce, someone is bullying him, he feel disconnected from family members, he feels it is his fault that his parents aren't together, her blames himself for the parents spitting up, a death in the family, and many other things.
Just because he is seven doesn't mean he isn't feeling things that a adult would feel. He just has a hard time getting that emotion out that is healthy. Childhood depression does exist. See if he is willing to keep a journal that you and he can share and talk about what he has written. If he doesn't want to share it with you then suggest he share is with his doctor.
My son is eight and he is going through the same tyoe of behavior problems. We have found out that he was being bullied in class so we had him changed to antoher classroom, the journal was my idea and it seems to be working. the journal helps him put down all of his thoughts and nto get upset that my husband and I are not understanding him. Just getting it out helps evening if he writes I hate my classmates then you can sit down with him and ask him why. Then have him write that down.
You will have a better understanding about what is going on in his head. And then you can talk with his doctor about it as well. Good Luck to you |
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Penny
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I would find another doctor. Also, get him involved in more things. Find out what hobbies he likes doing. Spend time with him and take long walks. Sometimes medications makes the problem worst. He might need to change his medicine if he is taking any.
Have him wright down his feelings in a journal. Make a big deal when he does something good. When he does something bad, ask him why he did that and explain to him why he cannot do that again. Try to keep him on a regular schedule. Going to bed, getting up at the same time. Children with ADD and behavorial problems really need stability and structure. |
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ZOMBIEAC
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maby yes he is dianose to early. i went through the same crap. im 17 now and im going to the marines. so keep taking him to pyscologist if you think theres something wrong with him. but he will probally grow out of it and do fine in life. it all depends on the person. |
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missourim43
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You may want to consider some in-patient treatment and counseling. Discuss with your doctor. Your situation sounds very serious for him and anyone around him. |
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love
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He's not too young to diagnose, but he may be crying out for attention. Spend more time with him doing outdoor activities, and talking to him about WHY he feels the way he does. |
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Summer
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Blended families can be stressful for every member but this little boy has more serious underlying issues. This is far beyond ADD. Keep him in therapy and if that doesn't work, seek another mental health professional who will most benefit your stepson. As for the threats. Take them seriously. I know he's only 7 but he has a lot of anger and is not afraid to show it. Keep any dangerous objects secured and watch him very closely around children. Don't give up on him. Why not sign him up for some sort of physical recreation? Martial Arts, Football, anything that will let him express himself physically but in a controlled environment. It will teach him discipline, self control and respect for himself and others. |
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STORMY K
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why dont you try positive hugging and love |
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Pixie
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How long has he been visting the psych? Healing takes time. He could be lashing out due to an occurance in his life that is just really bothering him. ADD does not help, as all of his anger is probably magnified as nothing is getting resolved. He may be too young to know what is causing the rage, but with the therapy he receives now, he is closer to a resolution. |
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Patches6
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Sounds like this kid has a history of abuse somewhere along the line..It will take experienced professionals to diagnosis abuse as it can mimic other disorders (so I am told)...
Refer to guidance counselor
Refer to his doctor primary care
Dont quit asking
I hope he can get the help he needs |
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The Weasel
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He's probably pissed off because his parents got divorced. |
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thisemailaddresssucksbigtime
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He must be depressed...seriously. You should get him help early... Those are early signs of adult violence and or suicide. Get him help...NOW. |
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charmedchiclet
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It's hard to say what the outcome will be without knowing whether he's on medication and what his current doctor has done so far, and what their prognosis is.
It's good that you care so much, so talk to his mother and sit down together to formulate a specific plan to get him more help, maybe include yourself in the treatment plans. She must have some idea of what his psychiatrist has done so far? If not, it's definitely time for a second opinion, since there's no more time to waste. |
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I know, I know!!!!
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It sounds as if he may have social anxiety disorder. He definately needs help now while he is still young. If the doctor he is seeing is not helping him, then by all means find him a new doctor. It's great that you do realize and admit that he needs help. Good luck to you. I know you must be going through a really tough time. |
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lyllyan
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No, he is not too young. It sounds like he defiantly has some serious issues. If necessary - go to another psychologist/psychiatrist if this one is doing nothing. Your step-son should be on some type of meds and should be in therapy.
Sorry for your troubles, I know it must be very hard. |
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Flamingo
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You have to fight FOR him. If you aren't getting the results you expect from one doctor, take him to another. If the school is letting him fall through the cracks, meet with the principle. You can do it! |
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Violet Pearl
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He sounds angry. I suppose it has something to do with his family being destroyed when his parents broke up and moved on with their lives. He needs some serious intervention. Maybe his parents can handle it. |
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