i often find that, when i'm on the verge of being very low, i will 'feed' my depression, for example by searching for questions on here to do with self harm or suicide, so that i then ...
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moody
Self-harm?
i've been self harming for 4 years (i'm 16). i managed to stop it for about a few months. but because i'm so stressed out, i'm tempted on harming myself again. i am punching everything in sight. how can i stop?
seek medical attention and go on an antidepressant. they do work!
ALAN B
count to ten and think again
bmac
PLEASE talk to your parents. You need help. I have looked at your previous questions and either you are seriously depressed or you are seeking attention. Either one, you need help.
Do you think you are the only teenager who feels angst, pain, loneliness, fear, etc? Get a clue. Everyone feels that way when they are a teen. But most people don't act out on it. So knock it off and have a talk with mom and dad. I bet you have everything your little heart desires and you still pull this crap. Most teens do.
perfect
life is so hard i trully know as i had hard childhood but did not once carve myself up into pieces why why why try doing something constructive like boxing or rugby this will helped guaranteed
Farhali
PLEASE GET SOME HELP. And for god's sake do not take the advice of that fellow who tells you to smoke a joint. it's the worst advice i've ever heard. you have to tell someone about this. if you are not at ease at telling your parents get someone else, a relative, a family member with whom you are close, a teacher, a friend. anyone but ask them for help. and also keep a diary. it doesn'thave to be a special dairy just any notebook will be alright. whenever u feel like harming yourself, grab a pen and your diary and write whatevr feelings you are feeling. anything that goes through your mind. even if this got to be swear words write it. it helps believe me. if you don't feel like writing, then you can just take your pen or pencil and draw on the paper. it doesn't have to be an artist's drawing. you can also make any design you want. you van make a large circle and then shade it. concentrate on every bit of the circle and makle sure that there is no single point unshaded. if after that u still feel like hurting yourself make another shape like a triangle. just keep at it and you will feel better. also whenever you feel like this contact someone you trust and tell him everything. or if there is anyone who knows about your condition then contact that person
good luck
yassem1ne
dont get stressed out.. take it easy u know.. relax. and if for some reason u get mad at something... get ur mind off it by doing something else to forget about it. umm doesnt it hurt? i mean why do u do it? ask urself that.
carcrashclutter
When I was 14, I sliced my arm open with a paring knife in front of my girlfriend in highschool... and subsequently in front of thirty other freshmen and a substitute teacher. 18 stitches and a year-long suspension from Michigan public schools later, I still did it. It didn't start there, so why would I have expected it to stop?
I've been in put in a psych ward under suicide watch twice, once by the police as per the request of another girlfriend. My thighs look like roadmaps. I used to hurt myself for attention, but then I just hurt myself to feel alive. One week I punched myself in the right kidney 15 times a day. I tried to OD on Advil, and oddly enough 50 won't kill you, but it'll deteriorate your heart walls to the point that you'll have three heart attacks before you're 24.
My hands shake constantly, and I don't do drugs. I have severe social fears. I can't use a urinal in a public restroom unless I'm drunk or it's empty. I organize other people's stuff like it's going out of style, and my own room's a constant mess. I suffer from Trichotillomania and pull hairs out from my beard simply because they don't feel "right". My bedroom walls like like swiss cheese, and I've broken my pinky twice from punching stuff that's too immovable, neither time having it reset. I'm afraid everyone I care about is going to abandon me because my father died when I was four months old. I blame myself for things that are far beyond my own control. I used to stare at myself in the mirror and verbalize how much I hated what I saw.
I've tried counseling multiple times. It only works if you want it to. But I've always been too stubborn to want assistance. I always wanted to be able to overcome things on my own. Meds didn't help either. Zoloft (of the lovely SSRI class) stabilized my mood for a time, but it's induction of clarity only proved to allow my mind one outcome, the widely reported, Zoloft-brand answer of suicide. That stuff has it's own dangers. Wellbutrin seemingly didn't do a thing until 23 75mg pills knocked me out and gave me convulsions. When I woke up I had a golfball-sized welt on my forehead and had bitten halfway through my tongue thanks to the fall.
Listen, the point is there is no definitive answer. It's the underlying condition that's the real issue. Once I realized that I was never going to be cured of depression and that it was something I would have to deal with my entire life, I started to cope. I know that sometime in the future, I'll probably hurt myself again. I'll probably think about buying a gun and painting the room with gray matter again. I'll probably read up on simple poisons that'd kill me painlessly in my sleep again. But I know to do any of that only takes an instant of courage, but what I'm doing now will take a lifetime.
You need to internalize. You need to figure out what it is inside you that makes you feel the need to do it. It's not as simple as being a reaction to negative stimuli or because it let's you know you are alive. It's not because the physical action released emotion stresses. The answer is in you. Medication can balance the chemistry in your brain. A counselor can help you figure out what effects you negatively, or help you uncover ways to occupy your mind so these things won't have the same effect. These are all capable solutions, they may work for a month or for 25 years. But sooner or later you have to figure out what it is inside of you and accept it as part of who you are. No magic pill will change it, and no one but you can find it.
Jo
Strongly recommend medical help. Go see a therapist. Self harm is a way people cope with their problems. Instead of cutting, talking it out. Solving it the problem. Or you could replaced self-harm with you favorite activities like swimming, reading or giving yourself a treat everytime you resist the urge to self harm. Shred paper, write a diary. Anything that is legal and doesn;t hurt yourself or others. GOOD LUCK!
Anna B
you need medical help my friend if your self harming i used to self harm i almost dided it was that bad just don't do it
dancingstarr92
medical help please
old lady
Please, talk to your doctor and ask him or her to recommend a good therapist for stress and anger management. Punishing yourself by self-harm is a serious sign that something is wrong in your life. It may be something that you can control, or it may be something out of your control. Either way you need to identify it and learn how to deal with it. There's no point in going to a school counsellor, because their speciality is academic counselling, and you need something more profound than that.
Before you do yourself, or anyone else, serious harm, PLEASE ask your parents to help you, and get to a doctor who can refer you to the specialist treatment you need.
Bless you.
Xena
I think you need to go see a psychiatrist. They will put you on some medication to help calm you. If it's anger problems, you may need anger management. Don't be embarassed that you have to take medication. Alot of people have to. I am one of them.
Ndimakukonda
I think you need to get some professional help but in the mean time try not to think about it too much. When you get stressed take several deep breaths and try to relax, don't focus on negative things in your life and, if possible talk to a friend or your family.
I know it's not much help but this is a tough issue. I used to self harm too but managed to stop about 5 years ago. It's really difficult but you just have to keep fighting it. Try to remember that you are worth more.
Take care and God bless.
xxx
Remember Charlie
Are your doing drugs and alcohol? What is provoking it?Then work on that problem.There is good medicine ,you can get from a DR.to calm down.I was the same way ,everything would stress me out.Thank God,I didn't kill someone.Do it now,go to family Dr. to start.Remember that people have different reactions,to different substances and looking at everyday problems.Now I can set back and laugh at things,that would bother me before.
munchie
use ice or a pen Draw lines where you want to cut and see dr try to distress do something you love
shygal17_99
I know that you are feeling hopeless but think about those who you will hurt by hurting yourself. Those who really love you, your family, your parents.
Firstly you have to realise what is making you so unhappy. Look around you, there are many people who don't have anything. No food to eat, no clothes to wear, innocent people are dying because of problems between countries. Life is so precious. How can you just give it up?
What makes you think that you will be at peace after death? What if you will be in a worst condition and no one will be able to hear you? Maybe you have heard from other people about death but what if they are wrong?
You need to visit your dr. and tell her what is making you feel depressed. You will need medicines to help you feel better.
Have you heard that an idle mind is a devil's workshop? Try to involve yourself in some kind of an activity but after you speak to your doctor!
There must have been times when you felt really sad before but you got through them and you will get through this also. Don't lose hope.
Tiger Lamb
Too many people today feel discontentment and end up in self destructive mode (self harm can be anything; smoking, drinking, drugs, alcohol, cutting, etc etc etc).
Mostly it's born out of a lack of stimulation, aim, direction in life. So, find something that truly interests you. Additionally, find something that takes you out of your 'head' and forces you to care and think about others (e.g. volunteer somewhere where people need help in some way). It will give you a different perspective with which to see life and the world.
Get busy. Find an aim. Find something that interests you.
There is a fine line between sanity and insanity and that, my friend, is responsibility.
Simply stop cutting yourself and find an alternative outlet. By that - I mean find something else that makes you FEEL. Cutting is simply a way for someone to reassure themselves that they feel. Good luck!
b_slap99
By making the decision to stop. Realizing that this irrational behavior is your choice and of the making. Unless you have a psychological disorder which causes this, in which case a good dose of thorozene and a nice long stay in the nut house might be in order.
Mira Cheskis
Stop and breathe.
Check out this page on Secret Shame:
http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/fself.html
Depending on the particular emotion you're having, it's got great suggestions.
Best of luck to you. Seriously. I'm almost three years SI free, so I've been there.
Happy.
Please Please seek medical help. There honestly is lots of professional help you can get and you will not be judged.....years ago,my friend went through very similar and with the help of counselling etc,she was so glad she went to her doctors(she was also your age when she finally went.).
claire d
a friend of mine suffered for a long time she did get proffesional help which helped her to stop i think she still thinks about doing it again but she notices the ugly scars all down both arms then realises it is not worth it
speak to your gp or your parents if you can
koukla
Do this:
Take EVERYTHING that you use to self harm (lighters, matches, anything in your room or house thats glass, scissors, pencil sharpeners, EVERYTHING) and throw it away. If you do still feel the urge to do it just remind yourself (this is what I did to stop it worked) ...that you can lie about what you do to everyone...but YOU will still know what you do. Nothing can change that. Me personally...I couldn't live with myself knowing that I did that....so I gathered up some self-control and just reminded myself that I knew this was wrong....and even if you convince yourself that no one else has to know..just remember one thing. YOU WILL KNOW. Things that you can do INSTEAD are exercise, art, call a friend, go out....you can even throw things...just DONT HURT YOURSELF!
luzbeth
consult a therapist cause u have a lot of frustration in ur life. u need to learn healthier ways of expressing all that pent-up frustration. if after a couple of months, u don't feel any better, u might need to see a shrink.
azteccamera
I also am a self harmer and am trying desperately to stop like you. I have tried a therapist and we didn t click so now I m trying another. Don t give up! U have to find the best solution for u and get some professional help because there are people out there that can help u. Its great that u managed to stop for 6 months! I find the website www.lifesigns.org.uk very helpful. There is a message board where u can talk to others who understand completely how u feel. Hope u feel stronger soon
Byakuya
turn your life over to Jesus..
Burnbaby
I guess you need to get to the bottom of your unhappiness. I'm almost 26 & a self harmer. There are sites to help with self-harm... try www.nshn.co.uk/ also, if you are truly unhappy, see a doctor. You can't carry on like this. 4 years is a long time.
JR
You will only stop when you understand why you're doing it. Then you may decide there are other ways of dealing with your stress. Keep a journal, write down how you feel when you harm yourself - do you get some relief afterwards ? Being a teenager is hard. You're mixed up, don't know what to do with yourself and think that no-one else suffers like you do. TALK to someone you trust. There are ways you can feel better but YOU need to take control of your life.
truluv exists!
Why are you cutting yourself?
when we very young we learn ways of making things right for ourselves.As a child when we do something wrong we are punished and that once we had paid for our wrongdoing everything was then ok. also the punishment made us feel we had atoned. When someone feels they have done something wrong, they atone, they feel bad for a while and they dont feel they have to carry on punishing themselves. some people carry their hurt & pain around with them and keep punishing themselves. How do you feel after you cut yourself? Does it make you feel better? You need to work this through with a counsellor, get a referal from your doctor or call childline. www.selfharm.org is specifcally for young people that can offer you on line support. take care.
♣♥BabyBlue♥♣
i did this - and it doesn't help in the long run - trust me - i was in your shoes once!
whatever you do, DO NOT SELF HARM...
get yourself a diary - any sort of diary, just an old notebook will do, but write in it everything thats stressing you out - every time you feel like punching something, grab your diary and rant and rave about everything that's really P*ssing you off in your diary - it really helps - and then go for a long walk - a fast, long walk, to anywhere, but preferably to somewhere where you end up in the middle of nowhere, and when you get there, SCREAM your loudest and shout and stamp and get it out of your system - then sit down and clear your mind and then take a slow walk home - by the time you get home, you'll be wondering why you got so stressed out in the first place!!!
try it, i know it sounds weird, and you may feel silly scraming to yourself in the middle of nowhere, but it really does help - i have been there - my parents made me go to counselling when i was 15, but it didn't help, cos i was determined that no one else apart from me new how i could possibly be feeling, and then a friend bought a diary and i wrote everything in it - and then gradually i could answer the questions and problems that i was facing.
i know what you are going through and i can promise you it will pass - so please give my suggestions a try
email me if you feel you want to chat - i dont mind and will answer as soon as possible
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