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Eli
Can a guy change if he is pathologically jaelous, can get violent, verbally abusive..?
can he change if i "punished" him by being away for 6 months. he is trying hard to get me back, but i dont know.lot of **** happened and im not sure anymore what is the best. Additional Details he is not playing his sweeteness:{ i know he is sweet, he just has problem, which he didnt choose to have. i want to help him. i love him so much, i bloody love him so much, i think i will die any minute!!!! it is not faaaaaaaaaaiiiiiiiiirrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!! i hate my life.
Seems to me you need to get rid of this guy, you were asking the same questions two months ago and again a couple of weeks back.
You have been depressed and unhappy since being on here.
He is obviously not going to change, it's time you make a clean break for it.
missychele
Unfortunately - once a man becomes physically violent and abusive, it is very rarely that he will change.
He of course could go to counseling and try to get help to get his rage and anger under control, but it has to be something he wants to do - not do it because someone tells him to.
He is violent, jealous and verbally abusive to you because of something much deeper than your punishing him by being away from him for six months will fix.
There has to be something that happened to him or someone he knows - or has had some kind of trauma for him to be this way. As you know (or should know) - YOU haven't done anything to deserve his abuse. His problems are HIS and he needs to get them worked out before he will ever change.
Once a man hits a woman, he'll do it over and over again - unless he gets help.
surfnsfree
He is not likely to change. You need to be more independent and not tolerate any form of disrespect. The only thing that can possibly change is if you change and you refuse to put up with jelousy violence etc... You have to respect yourself and make all you get close with respect you too. that is the only way things can get better.
loulou777
God yes...
If he is showing signs now, it will only get worse far worse...
Take my advice get out NOW...
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Write down all the positive aspects and negative of your relationship that will help you see...
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You say you love him, does he love you ????
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Good luck babes ....
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99.9% no run away from it
Mopar Muscle Gal
Guys do not change their bad habits
they hide them for a while
dlmrgnk
My dear, listen to me. A guy will not change because you "punish" him if he is jealous, violent and abusive. He does that, not because of ANYTHING you did or didn't do (except to accept the abuse) but, almost certainly, because he was abused as a child. The ONLY way he'll have a shot at changing is to heal the poor little boy deep down inside who got a very raw deal. Normally, that take a great deal of hard work on his part and the help of a therapist or counselor.
He will (assuming he's a classic case) do anything and say anything to get you back into his life. Go back at your peril because punishment is not what he needs and he learns nothing from it. It will get worse not better.
flidais
If he is as bad as all that, you need to get as far away from him as possible, as quickly as possible. He CAN change, if he wants to badly enough....but the chances are he won't. The "sweetness and light" he is showing you now is only an act, designed to get you to let your guard down. Once he has you under his thumb again, you may not come out alive.
farmagedon
Okay. You need some distance. He actually IS all those negative things. It is not just some eensy thing you can choose to ignore. What if you continue? What if he gets worse? What if you have kids?
NO NO NO NO and no
The relationship you have is already rooted in this stuff. He already knows you as someone who can tolerate abuse. This is about power and control and if you hurt for five years, i promise you, you will still look back one day and say, God, what was I thinking?
Love is a good thing. It is a nurturing thing. It is a thing that people show you by wanting only the best for you.
He does not love you.
Dont make excuses now.
It doesnt matter why.
This is not love.
butterflyroth
You need to stay out of that relationship for ever! Especially since he's abusive. Guys will not change their major behaviors. I've been able to get my husband to try corn, but I cant get him to stop wanting to get a motorcycle and do wheelies.
pisces86@sbcglobal.net
He won't change cause he's already the way he is my suggestion to you is he can possibly turn even more agressive towards you if you get back with him because of his jealous ways plus you experience this once why wait for a second time. And it's not like he's the only guy in the world so move on who knows you might even find someone better for you.
4HIM
People who are jealous have low self esteem or low self worth. You can't change him but, a licensed Christian counselor can help him to love himself and become a more healthy person only if he wants to be. There is hope for him but, he needs counseling to acquire this help.
He must go through extensive counseling because many people who become violent, can hurt others mentally and physically. This means you and possibly the children that you two might have. He could really mess them up badly. Stay away from him until and unless he does this.
LIz
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psychmetanoia
yeah he could change. but you would need a shrink or a good counsellor to deal with his pathological tendencies. but if he gets hulk up i think it is best to seek help in authorities. i think America has laws concerning that. refer him into a clinical psychologist.
Juanitamarie
He won't change unless he wants to change. Staying away from him for 6 months won't matter if he doesn't see what he's doing wrong.
My advice: Get out of his life for your sake.
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