Tsunami
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you need to go into therapy and get help that is the only way i have heard talking about it also helps peple talk with best friend and stuff and the doctor you kno wit could take long while. |
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♫♪♫ The Music Makes Me Sway.
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I cant even begin to understand the pain you must be going through, you cant just get over something like that, you need to come to terms with it so it doesnt become something that ruins your life, healing takes time. i would suggesst talking to a tharapist who will be able to help you. good luck and stay strong! |
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lilgrljw
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you need to do something to get it out of your system for good
talk to someone you know is always there for you |
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Jeni
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First of all, there should be no guilt. It is not your fault you were raped.
Second, no. There is no way to get over it quickly. I was raped 6 years ago and I still think about it at times.
Your best bet is to get therapy and join support groups. You NEED to talk to someone about it.
If you don't feel comfortable talking to someone in person, there are lots of online support groups. |
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☺ Joey ROCKS! ☺
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theropy |
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oh my gosh that must be so hard to go through. I would suggest trying to forget and remember that nothing is your fault. You are surrounded by people who love you and you shouldnt let this have any permanent affect. Be strong! |
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Marc M
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u got ot talk ot somebody about it |
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PrincePG
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Talk to someone about it. |
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girl
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You should have told someone. It's too late to prove it, but you should still consider telling someone about it. |
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ratracer365
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There is no quick fix to any of life's problems. All you can do is try to about it and try to continue to live life as best you can. There is no more horrible feeling than that of such personal violation but you must first understand that it was you that was violated. You have no need to feel quilt. Self loathing and quilt is often an unfortunate side effect of such a violation. And it is that side effect that most predators count on. Talk to a professional, your mom, or a friend. Use what you have available to you. And good luck. |
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susie :-))
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Just talk with someone you are comfortable with and trust, it's better out than in. |
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L1Z4RD
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therapy, its worth a shot |
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Mallory W.
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talk to a counsiler that is specilized in that area
if you havent told anybody tell someone now though
but i bet you have
and im sorry =[ |
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cindy w
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sorry to say the only way...i have found to get over it is to work thru it with a councilor and it isn't easy or fun as you know , but it's easier to do it NOW then to wait...
good luck!!!! |
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aaron_murphy75
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OMG u got raped im feeling really bad for u well i say just tell your mom or dad to get it out of your mind PS i feel really srry for u so take care now |
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lizzydizzy269
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Hun I was raped 8 years ago and I am still not fully over it and yea dont think I ever will. Its not something that is easy |
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backpackwayne
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There is no way I can understand your pain because I haven't been raped myself.
But I can't understand why you would feel any guilt at all. You have done nothing wrong. I could understand if you feel anger or disgust. But not guilt.
I am being very honest and sincere with my comments so don't think I am belittling your feelings. Quite the opposite in fact.
YOU HAVE NOTHING TO FEEL GUILTY ABOUT!
IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT!
This person had already stolen something from you. Don't let them steal your happiness and well-being as well.
You're going to be okay. It's just going to take some time. |
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Kathryn R
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NO I'm sorry there is no way to learn to deal with the feelings in a quick way. I'm a rape survior also, if you truly want to learn to deal with your feelings than you should find a rape survivors group. Talking it over with people who have gone through the same experiences is a real help. I know that people have told you that you shouldn't be feeling any guilt becasue you've not done any thing wrong. But it's part of the experience that you'll have to learn to deal with. Call the nearest hospital or victims survivors group to ask them about a rape survivors group. The information might be in the front pages of your local phone book. IF not call your doctor and see if they can give you a recomendation. |
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Gloria H
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I'm so sorry to hear that you are a victim of this hideous crime. Getting over something so traumatic will not happen overnight. I would suggest seeking therapy / medication to help ease the emotional pain. Did you press charges? |
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jupyter_flew
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Honey, why are you guilty? YOU were raped, it wasn't your fault. Find someone you trust that you can talk to and let this out. Cry and get it out. Get mad, write a letter full of the things you'd love to tell the creep who did this to you. Then pray for God to bring peace to your heart and mind. Make conscious decision to let this go and imagine yourself letting it go. Imagine all the pain and anger filling a jar, then imagine burying the jar (you could also put the letter you write into a real jar and then bury it, or burn the letter to symbolize letting it all go).
Peace be with you. |
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Live Laugh Love <3
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No, there is no way.. Ready Lucky by Alice Sebold. She gave her rape story to the public, and the book is amazing. But, it helps you a lot. Trust me. |
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Anton
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First, it wasn't your fault you got raped. It's that predator's fault who raped you. why should you feel guilty for something that someone did you wrong. Go to a support group and tell your experience. The more you talk about it, the faster you'll get over it. Remeber, it's not your fault. |
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shannon89
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talk about it and let it out. tell someone that can help you out with it. |
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Leprechaun of Jupiter
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i'm sorry that that happened. What are u guilty of its not ur fault . Hopefully the animal who attacked u is being gang raped in prison as i type |
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Answer This!
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First, dont feel guilty for being raped, it was not your fault, do talk to a counselor , they can help you move on with your life. |
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dianah
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RAINN
1-800-656-HOPE |
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bi chick
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u need to go to see someone...counseling! people who dont get help fast could live there life in emotional depression or something bad like that |
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Tiffgoody2shoes
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You need to speak with a counselor that specializes in dealing with rape victims, preferably a woman you can trust and feel comfortable talking to.
http://centers.rainn.org/
I agree with the previous poster that said to read Alice Sebold's books:
"Lucky"
http://www.amazon.com/Lucky-Memoir-Alice-Sebold/dp/B000EGF0NW/ref=pd_sim_b_img_1
"Lovely Bones" http://www.amazon.com/Lovely-Bones-Alice-Sebold/dp/0316166685/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1202261506&sr=8-1
which will both give you some insight and a sense of hope for your own situation.
You should also try self-defense classes that will give you a peace of mind in knowing that you can defend yourself in most situations. Yoga is also great for focus and meditation to learn how to cope with your emotions.
Just remember the victim is not the guilty one, and you are guilty of absolutely NOTHING. |
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fenderplayer211
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you shouldnt have any guilt, you were RAPED!!!!! |
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