connietran311
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just take a deep breath and be calm. Also, think before you act. |
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Thousand Sunny
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hmmm, a trick Q
try to focus on doing something else like helping other people you don't know or find a job, keep urself busy all the time. But unless your body is suffering from a illness which your don't know about it. Its best if you can go to a doctor and ask then to x-ray your body see if you got a bone broken |
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Hope G
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i know just how you feel. but once you cut or hurt yourself for the first time it will follow you for the rest of your life. It will be in your mind and sometimes your body goes through withdrawl. When i would do it to myself the next day i would feel so guilty. if your parents already know its better to tell them that way they are aware (trust me its really hard) i would tell the parent u talk to most. good luck |
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Habichuela
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you can talk to me, just dont hurt you self, please |
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silver.graph
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If you broke the skin and your tetanus shot isn't current, go to the nearest urgent care clinic tomorrow early and get a tetanus shot. That's the first order of business. Get the damage looked at and treated.
Don't panic. You've done this before and you're here now, well enough to communicate online. People do some extreme things when they're under stress. Some of them do drugs, get drunk, eat whole bags of candy, watch five dumb movies in a row...and they still live to fight another day.
What your job will be, after you take care of the medical stuff, is to identify the stress that made you do this. Then you get some help dealing with the stress. You may have to get your doctor's backup to get the stress in your life turned down if your school is causing it. If it's a peer problem, a counselor should be able to help. You do not have to specify what you did to hurt yourself when you talk to a counselor before you know the counselor well enough to trust him/her. Just say, "When I get stressed beyond a point, I hurt myself. I need help stopping the stress before it gets me to that point."
Remember, nobody on earth has the right to push you to the point that you want to hurt yourself. Not a parent, not a spouse, not a lover, not your school, certainly not one of your peers. |
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Curiously Curious
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The first answerer has no concept of what you are going through.
If you do a Google search on "support for cutting self" you will get almost 3 million websites. Right on the first page of the Google search are quite a few that may be of help to you.
Try not to panic. Just get to that search. I'm sure there most be hot lines on there.
Take care. |
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Duchess
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Why can't you go to a counsellor? Cant you ring a Lifeline or something, there are people out there that can help and talk to you if you ask for help.
7 months is a good stint for not 'hurting' yourself so this is just a minor bump in the road. Your not perfect - no one is. You obviously dont want to do it, so recognise it and move on and dont do it again.
You'll be fine. |
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Derrick A
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first of all, people do understand, but only if you give them a chance to listen. and if you can't go to your best friend about something like this, well, then they aren't a very good friend at all. the only way is to get help from someone else, anyone. if it helps, talk to me online. i'm willing to be an anonymous friend, someone to talk to whenever you need me, no questions asked. just start venting and i'll listen, i promise. my AIM screen name is prosoccergod17 and i'm online most of the time. my e-mail is prosoccergod17@aim.com |
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Shony07
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Well i know you might feel alone right now, and even though you might not believe it but there are LOADS!!! of people that feel and act the way you do u need to find a support group online to talk with ppl like you and how they helped them selfs.
http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html
http://www.vinland.org/scamp/institute/dsh.html |
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ginavillar25
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OK, it happend again, you can not change that, right now lets focus on your well being.
REMEMBER YOUR FAMILY LOVES YOU NO MATTER WHAT! If you still do not want to talk to them call any emergency line or go to this website www.metanoia.org/suicide/ they can help.
Please remember everything has a solution except death.
I care and your family and your friends we all care YOU ARE NOT ALONE and you do not have to be alone to get through this. |
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Erabus
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Honey you NEED to talk to your family. There are some things that I've been a bit embarrassed to tell my family, but believe me, their top priority is you and your well being. Talk to them. Start right now if you can. |
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tallsally
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You have to find someone to talk to! Do you have a minister to talk to? Or call the crisis hotline they'll listen. I'd listen! |
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Sammy Skippy W
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First, calm down girl. You're gonna be alright. Second, I know a lot of times it seems as if there is no one to talk to, and that no one understands. I feel for ya sister!! People always say "its ok to talk to your parents, they'll understand!" but that's not true at all. I wish i could give you a hug right now. Just remember that crying is all right. It makes you feel better. As to how you hurt yourself, i don't know and i don't want to know. But ur gonna be fine, girl. Just give it time. And remember, bad times just make good times 10 times better!
Luv u and sending u an e-hug =) |
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juanes addicion
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don't panic...just don't do it again...but you will want to join a group of self help so that you an get the help you need from others who are in your position.. |
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bigleybill
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You have to take control of yourself and seek help. You need a doctor to help you through this rough time. You know something is wrong and you can't control it so ask for help. Consider the alternative. |
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ming
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Hi,
I don't know how to advise you but I think all you have to do now is to calm down, to listen to yourself, to endure what you have done and to hope you will change everything to the good ones in the future.
I hope you will soon overcome your difficulties.
Cheers up. |
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peachiepie
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Call a mental health hot line right now. They won't judge you and you can looK it up in your yellow pages on the net right now. Many are at the phones 24 hrs a day, good luck ok, I'm pulling for you! |
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Cee T
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When you have no one to turn to, it's time to turn to the Lord. God loves you. He does not want you hurting yourself. Try asking Him into your life. Read the Bible (New Testament first). Jesus died for our sins and rose again. Pray. Ask Him to help you. I'll pray for you. John 3:16,
Romans 10:13 |
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Harry P
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shes talking about being an cutter i think....... So i would advise getting some really good friends that will stick with you and harass you if they find cuts and keep your secrets. |
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ADAM S
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I know what you are talking about. You need to go to an AA meeting (I mean everyday), get a sponsor, work the steps, read the book, and help others. Through yourself into this way of life. A spiritual experience is vital if you want to live a good and full life. The above steps will give you a spiritual experience. |
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CRAZZY
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you probably think they dont understand you but they do. it will be better if you talk yo someone you love and loves you back hurting yourself is not good and you already now this if you were good for seven months what happened now that made you hurt yourself again that is what you need to talk to someone about |
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thom t
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If you're no longer "clean" does that mean you are on drugs? You must seek professional help, or try your clergyman. |
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jkgirl<3
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you should talk to a threapast becuz you cant handle this yourself and theres not a lot of people on yahoo anwsers that can either so find someone to trust and trust them or this is going to keep haping good luck |
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Reyna
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So you said you hurt yourself but then insinuated drug use?
Get your phone book look up crisis hot lines and call one. They will talk to you anonymously. |
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� sky3000 �
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Dealing with this as secret is not a good idea. That is a big part of why it happens. Once you are open and let other people in, then you are closer to having control again.
It might seem like you will lose control by letting others know, but you are actually taking control.
I agree with others, you need to find someone that knows about this and knows how to help you. You need an expert. They know what to do...where as you don't right now. |
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tlcats
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Calm down, sweetie and don't beat yourself up. You did the best you could for as long as you could and now you have the opportunity to try again. Seven months is a hugely long time and you should be patting yourself on the back for a job well done!
Now take a deep breath, maybe a long warm bath and concentrate on getting through tomorrow. Then concentrate on getting through the next day and the next, slowly but surely you will make it to 7 months again, then 8 months. Any recovery has set backs, call it a learning experience and go forward. Someday you will meet someone who is in your position who needs your help . You will be wise and caring because you have been there. Best wishes and I'll be praying for you! |
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luvspace
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You do have to go to someone who understands, if not to your parents, go to your friends parents. |
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hershey kiss
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Don't panic. Take a deep breath. There are people that understand you. There are professionals that can help you, that know what they're talking about. Ask your parents to take you to a counsler, just to talk out some of your problems, because you have some things that you have to put out on the table that you need someone outside your family to talk to. There ARE people that know what you're going through, you just have to find the right ones. Calm down! I hope I helped! Good luck! :) |
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qc_paws
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Well I dont know what you did but I am sorta in the same situation right now. Just think about everyone that really loves you. Is this really worth hurting them and yourself? It brings down your motivation and it really hurts everyone exspecially yourself JUST QUIT. It may sound hard but looks like you did it before why not again and for good this time? |
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As Real As It Gets
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Your family, friends, and counselor are exactly who you DO need to talk to. You need to get the problem out in the open and deal with it honestly if you want to stop it from happening again.
You're only as sick as your secrets. |
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relaxification
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I'm going to give you one simple piece advice that I promise you is absolutely true.
Even if you disagree, please read to the end of my answer, and then make up your mind. You owe it to yourself. But this might be hard to hear, ok? Here goes:
The biggest mistake a person who engages in destructive behaviour can make is to assume that his or her problem is so complicated, or so sick, or so twisted, or so unique, that nobody will understand it.
That's it. Pretty simple sounding, isn't it? But hear me out.
It might help if you pretend for a moment that there are 2 parts inside you. There's you, and there's the person who does bad things. You want to stop. You want to stay clean. You want to be a good person.
But the person who does bad things, your other half, wants to keep doing the bad stuff. And the only way this person can keep doing bad stuff is if it convinces you, in any way it can, not to look for help. So it fools you into thinking that whatever your problem is, nobody is going to understand. Or care. Or that you're the bad person, and you don't deserve to be happy.
But this is a lie, and it's the lie that's preventing you from getting the help you need. I know it's hard, but try to be objective: if your friend was in pain, wouldn't you do everything you could to get her help, even if she didn't think help was possible?
This other side of you is not your friend. But you can be. Do yourself a favor and talk to a professional about this.
I promise you, no matter what's going on in your head, this person will have dealt with it before. There's no such thing as a new neurosis.
Good luck, and don't sell yourself short. |
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