russhyy
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Your question is how to make her stop. The answer is YOU CAN'T. This is an addictive behavior. She needs help from professionals, just as she would if she were a junkie. So it's time to grow up a little and do what's right for your friend, even if she gets mad at you. Report this to a teacher, school counselor, or someone else in authority. She needs help you can't give her. |
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bolo
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If you cant confide in her family and friends, how about your family?
If that is not an option have you considered taking her to a church and asking a youth minister to speak to her? She doesnt need to be a Christian to ask for help. Nor do you.
Let me ask you this, if the situation was reversed, this was YOU cutting yourself and you had noone but your friend, what would you want her to do for you and how? |
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that guy.... that knows stuff
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look her in the eyes and tell her you lover her and you want her to stop, if she can't do it for you, tell her to stop for herself. |
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llltazslleyeslloflltrullblulll
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if you wait to tell someone soon, it may be too late for her. |
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lucky
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Ma I think you should sit down and talk to her let her know she has you no matter what ask her to talk to you tell you whats wrong maybe she wants attention hang out with her more maybe you can see whats going on
GOOD LUCK |
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ultimatesoulmates
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I don't know how old you are so no offense on anything I am gonna say. Your friend needs some serious help. Please talk to someone who can help you get help for your friend. She might be mad at first because you told on her. But trust me in the long run, she will thank you. She is calling out for attention and doesn't know where else to turn. |
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KK#9 fan
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Speak to your pastor about this. I'm sure he will do anything he can to help. |
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raylovesdaladies
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Look find out what's going on and try to diffuse what her problem is,find the source of what makes her want to do that to herself.After you've successfully done that be as suppourtive as you possibly can.Don't over do it though if she doesn't wanna tell you leave it be but as once in awhile. |
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sOuL dOcToR
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Give her BELLADONNA 200 or 1000 its a homeopathic Remedy or maybe she will need TARENTULA 1000
Feel free to email me if the problem still persists !
Take care and God Bless you all ! |
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fivestarmama
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If you are truly her friend you will immediately tell an adult you have confidence in. This girl has a serious mental problem and until she gets professional help she will continue on this path. Please be her friend and get her to a caring adult. |
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gonzalo urquiza
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I used to do it, I want to hurt myself, I was very depressed, then I tried to suicide myself. You must tell her parents, they will help her. |
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Mac
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Listen to your heart if you care about your friend! Alert someone! |
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candi k
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dont tell her mom maybe thats why shes doing it. its almost always the parents fault. just be a good friend and let her open up to you. once you have discovered the reason (if you r a good friend you will) try and keep her busy people need to feel useful and needed. maybe you could need her for something, see how she responds? its always better to get to the root of the problem doctors tend to white wash. just remember there is a solution to everything. be patient. |
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yearrgh
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Cutting oneself is a somewhat common teenage response to overwhelming stress and feelings of helplessness/lack of control in ones life. It is not usually a sign of suicidal tendances. She definately needs help, but you probably can't do anything to make that happen. The best thing you can do is take her out as much as possible and do whatever you can to make sure she has fun. Don't harass her about it, this will just stress her out more and cause more problems. Don't even mention it to her, just get her to do things she enjoys. |
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micsatavi
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You need a doctor not advice from unknown people like us!!! |
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The Muffin Man
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She needs more help than you can give her. It is not your fault. Tell someone who can help her, if mom is the issue, tell a teacher or school counselor.
She feels unloved. The best thing you can do is not abandon her. Stick with her, don't judge her, but get her to someone who can help.
Good Luck, you deserve the title of friend. |
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Bronwyn
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You should tell her mother. (in confidence of course) |
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HONEYBEE
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You should tell some body that can get her help.Like her mother,father,teacher,or even a pritcher.Just get her some help before it's to late. |
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miniWiz
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if your friend's not old enough, please do find a mature person to help you out because you are helping your friend...
if your friend's old enough, please explain to her that cutting herself is an imatural behavior. A mature person will face problems and deal with it instead of hurting herself.
or you can always call 911 |
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teambargain
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Give me a break people: Do you realize that people over the age of 30 self abuse? this isn't a maturatity problem. It is a mental illness. God isn't going to fix this either.
<---- recovered self injurer. You need to be able to confide in someone. if not her family then a school counselor perhaps. This won't go away on its own. She needs professional help. Find a support group in your area and take her there. If she is young someone in her family needs to know. If she is over 18 then call your local hotline for self abuse. They will be able to help you further. Good Luck |
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wyldchyld1974
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get her into counseling and let her know that u will go with her and that u love her. when people cut themselves it's to make their bodies hurt like they are hurting inside. it makes their souls feel better or so they think. my daughter in law was once a cutter now to make her feel better she draws or does tattoos she wants to become a tattooist. my neice claws at her skin or picks scabs she got from clawing at her skin. it's her way for punishing herself for things she blames herself for happening. help her. show her that instead of hurting herself she can do other constructive things in a good way. let her know how precious she is to you and that you love her with your heart and soul and that she is the most beautiful creature on this earth that God created. what ever you do don't turn your back on her. she needs you now more than ever. GOD BLESS YOU BOTH |
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hellblade_xin
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I really think that if its as bad as all that you should put your friend on suicide watch, there are plenty of phone #'s and internet sites that can help you find help for your friend. And you better do it QUICK!
If you are thinking about harming yourself or attempting suicide, or you know someone who is suicidal tell someone who can help right away:
* Call your doctor's office.
* Call 911 for emergency services.
* Go to the nearest hospital emergency room.
* Call the toll-free, 24-hour hotline of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) to be connected to a trained counselor at a suicide crisis center nearest you. |
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grandm
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Self-mutilation is a very serious disorder; go tell your school counselor so your friend can get the help she so desperately needs! |
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maggie_englehart
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go to an adult she trusts--ask for intervention |
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varsity41linajr
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Take it from me, cutting is a way to stop the emotional pain with physical pain. It may be that she does not know how to deal with emotional pain any other way. Sit her down and talk to her, find out why she is hurting. After finding out what causes her this pain that makes her cut try to keep her away from it. I know easier said then done. Also she may be cutting and not even realize she's doing it, aka mental block out. If you can not help her by listening and helping her avoid and deal with mental pain then you need to look into hospitals that can. At least there she can not harm herself that way. You do not need to be her parents to have her admited you just need to call a crisis hotline and tell them what you know. I know it sounds hard but some times theres no other options. |
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purple
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you alone cant make her stop doing that .. so if you cant go to her mom or dad bc they dont care maby you can go to a teacher or someone else a neighbor or a older friend aunt.. or maby your mom or dad can help .. sounds like she needs more help than you can give if you love her you will get her help..before she does something serious |
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Calee
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Try to get professional help as soon as you can.
You are very wise to be concerned about your friend. |
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silverrainlili
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you need to talk to her and try to understand why she is doing this... you said her parents dont care... try to get her to understand... that she isnt hurting them but her self... if she's doing it as a way to vent her upset, hurt, anger try to go out with her and do some thing like kick boxing or something... burn out that pent up energy... doing those sort of things together will reinforce that she's not alone... |
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chaoshelp18
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Have you tried to understand why she is cutting? maybe it is stress, maybe she wants attention, maybe she needs to find something, or find out how much pain she can tolerate. I know lots of cutters, and they do it because of stress, and they don't ever want to go to adults, or tell anyone else. Usually they don't talk about it unless you understand what is going on. Just talk to her, and listen to her, try to understand. Good luck, and never rat her out, thet will just make things worse. |
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carobygirl
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Call 1 800 DONT CUT
This is a number you can call if you are concerned about a friend or family member who cuts. |
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Usagi-chan!
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You should alert someone, a teacher or call a suicide help line. If she won't stop she is depressed and NEEDs help. She may be mad at you for telling others, but in the long run you will save her life. Get her help ASAP. |
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