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gleaming_gem
Is it pathetic i still live at home at 27?
IM 27 and everyone i know is getting on and engaged has a life, good friends etc No im not saying their lives are perfect but yhey are content. I I have always cared about what people thought of me and cannot really deal with social situations so i began to hide myself away particularly from my community where everyone knows everyones business. I developed an eating problem and my world has generally fallen apart. I have bad depression had 2 nervous breakdowns but basically i can see nothing to live for - nothing inspires or drives me or makes me want to continue. I dont fit in anywhere and seeing everyone i know settling down and getting married i am finding so hard to deal with because i havent even ever dated really. I still live with my parents and basically dont socialise at all. I dont know how i am meant to carry on living or what for. I just feel like such a failure because seriously at 27 it is embarassing to be like this but its like i am not motivated enough to change it
Do u think that u are the only one in this world who would have such problems, believe it or not, there are many, Ă¢nd there are people going thru worse times in their lives than u are, be grateful for where u stand righ now, think about changing urself and u will be surprised.
And by the way, u talk about how u r meant to live or why live, pay a visit to ur nearest hospital, and watch people struggle for life, u havent seen the real pain... I was likeu once upon a time...........
Rori4Eva
It kinda is. You need to rent out your own place and get hustling...good god you not that far from 30! no one really want to date someone who still lives with their mommy and daddy .
ladyspy
First of all, you are not a failure and you should stop telling yourself that you are. What you need to do is to try to appreciate and cherish the blessings that you have instead of counting your failures and what you are not.. Life is too beautiful and remember, we only live once. Life is not a trial and error. There is no next time. Get up and start dreaming. That is the first step. Next, try to set a goal and a deadline to your goal. A dream without a goal and a dealine will remain a dream for the rest of your life :-) Really, it's not difficult. And before you know it, you will be surprised of how talented and smart you are! :-) Good Luck and God Bless you!
Soccer Dave
Things will fall into place for you one day, its just not you time yet :-)
Sazzy
See you are not pathetic, people care about you girl...................saz x
SKYPILOT
You are not pathetic. You just do not want to get out of your comfort zone. I suggest you go do something outrageous to awaken yourself. Try skydiving, it might awaken you. Anyway i think the average age to leave home is now 32 .So you still have time.
Hiker
You do not have to do what everyone else does, or be like everyone else. There is nothing wrong with just being yourself. Anyone can follow the leader, that takes no skill.
There is nothing wrong with living at home either. Stop beating yourself up over it. You are a unique person, you have unique talents and qualities.
I would suggest you make a life plan, put it in writing, and then implement it a step at a time. It doesn't have to match anyone Else's plan.
willy wom bat
well first of all your a human being. and nobody is perfect. so don't be critical of yourself. why don't you try psychotherapy. it very good. it all about positive thinking. after all it all in the mind. good luck.
k
talk to a couselor to help you get some ego to seek out company.you still are young.being married is not what it is cracked up to be.go where other people go so you can find friends.you will know when you find that special person.good luck.
J. W. H
let me offer you this suggestion.. pull up wikipedia personality psychology.. it is about four pages and it deals with pro-active and re-active brains.. all of it is worth reading.. but some of it is more important to you.. for instance read the Freud article and that of Karen Horney.. I think that if you do a little research on this subject that it may shed some light on who and how you are.. by doing this you will have a better understanding of yourself and you just might find some answers that will provide some guidance for you.. go check it out.. I think you will find that it is time well spent.. good luck
Tudor Queen
You sound as if you've had a problem with clinical depression for years. You need to get some counseling. Don't bother telling me that you're embarrassed about getting help. Do it. You spend way too much time worrying about what others think of you, and not enough time in healthy pursuits. What's the story here? Were you abused in childhood? Your symptoms could point to that, especially the fact that you haven't had the normal urge to separate yourself from your parents at an appropriate age. Often an abuse victim develops an abnormal attachment to his/her abuser(s) and can't seem to recognize what's going on, or free herself from the situation. You need professional help, you need to be out of the house, you need to be out in the world, working for a living and figuring out how to live on your own (or with a roommate). Please, get the help you need. Counselors are bound by professional ethics to keep your case confidential. They will not talk to your parents, if that's what you're worried about. You are only 27, you have your whole life ahead of you, and it can be a good life, but you've got to make the first move. No one can do this for you, you've got to do it yourself. Good luck, dear.
tisha
You need to seek the help of a mental health professional ASAP
kadmarco
I would stay with your parents just a little bit more, maybe see a psychiatrist, just get things in your life situated. Then I would move to a new city like New York or Seattle and start fresh. It's always fun and you can meet people there.
Daryl T
If you are not happy, change your lifestyle, you will be amazed what different surroundings can do for you.Good Luck and dont let life get you down as there are always people a lot worse off .
LYNDA M
you are not being pathetic no matter what you feel about yourself,you remember one thing you are who you are and dont think negative thoughts about yourself,im sure you are a lovely person,my niece is 36 and still lives with my mum ,you dont have to be married and settled down to have a good life,you just be yourself and think happy thoughts every day when you wake up in morning,as the saying goes another day dawns and with that comes new hope.hope you are ok,big hugs to you,
angel 36
you only feel that way because you don't get out enough try joining a club or go out more with your friends its no shame to still live at home you just need to remember this life is to short and the next one is to long we are only here for a good time not a long time go have some fun best of luck to you
Jimmy C
First of all stop comparing your life to everyone else's we all have a different life plan, look to get out more either by joining clubs or by looking here on the internet for social groups and slowly build your confidence up and see how your progressing dont be worried about what other people think no one's life is perfect all of us have problems, not many have the guts to deal with them good luck
Rockkii
Nothing wrong with it at all. If you are happy like that then it shouldn't matter what other people think.
I know it's hard, but if you aren't motivated, then nothing will change. You have to ask yourself whether you are not motivated because deep down, you don't want to be settling down right now. And besides, there's no law that says you have to get married and have children and there's also no time limit (except menopause, but that's a lonnnng way away).
You need to try and work on making yourself happy, instead of thinking of what someone of your age should be doing. Think of time and how long you have in this space of time, it's a pretty big chunk I can tell you. If you focus on yourself, then with time, effort and motivation you will feel adequate enough to do the things you always wanted.
Never run before you can walk because you are setting yourself up to fall. You are never a failure. The only person who thinks that is yourself, and this is a good thing because you are in control on what you think, so you can change this attitude.
I hope this helps in some way, I know it's hard with depression and feeling like a failure. One step at a time and you will get where you wanna be
Good luck xx
willow
it's quite common, most people just can't afford to leave home
sur4ed
Everyone's path in life is different. There's no reason to judge your sucesses or failures againt anyone else's. If that was the way life worked, I'd be pissed about donald trump's crappy haircut making millions and bagging models left and right. You just need to find something that works for you and makes you happy. If nothing else, it sounds like you could use a friend. My name is Ed, and there are a million other people out there happy to meet a new person any day of the week. You may need to expand your comfort zone a little to do that, but just remember that life is hit and miss. If you come out of your bubble, then there will be good and bad, but the one who decides which experiences to dwell on is you.
junglejungle
nope.
a lot of people can't afford to buy.. or spend money paying off someone else's mortgage (renting).
they should have limited the amount of homes people could buy. my friend is such a person, bought 10 houses, claimed shed loads of grants to fix them up and people like that have artificially inflated the price of houses as a result.
I don't talk to him , haven't for years as he only turned up when he wanted something.
jon n
if you don't want to be stuck at home like the 43 yr. old guy then I suggest you make some changes. It seems to me that you do want to judging from your question. I suggest you get out and get a job. Start working out or whatever. DO SOMETHING! Otherwise, your stuck.
dragonfly-dazed
First off, I'm so sorry to hear you are having such a hard time of it - big hugs to you. Life can be hard. I am glad to hear, however, that you have your family.
You mention you have bad depression - are you seeking treatment for this? Are you taking any medication, if so, it sounds like it is not working for you. If you are not taking medication and don't wish too, have you considered seeking help from alternative medicine i.e. homeopathy, counselling, hypnotherapy? Anything that works for you.
Have you considered joining a support group in your area? In this way, it will get you out of the house and you may just meet some new people that understand what you are feeling and dealing with.
I don't think you're pathetic living at home at 27. Who says there is an age limit on when or if you leave home? If you are comfortable there and in a supportive environment, stay there.
Do you work or are you able to work? Even a part time job? It doesn't have to be doing something professional, as long as it gets you out of the house and gives you something to wake up for in the mornings.
You really need a purpose in your life. If you can't/don't want to/can't work, how about volunteering? How about your local animal shelter or aged care home? If you help others, you will be making a difference to someone else's life and you won't have time to think about yourself - do you understand what I mean?
Take one day at a time.
Consider meditation or doing yoga so that you learn how to really breathe.
I truly wish you lots of luck.
Mama Bear
In this terrible economic period, many older people are packing their whole families up and moving in with Mom and Dad.
It helps both families financially and the only way some can afford to live a decent life.
As long as you kick in some money or work for your keep around the house, I see no problem here, other than your needing some help with your possible depression.
Tamart
You are surrounded by love and you are blessed
Courtney
Honestly, it doesn't matter when you move out of your parents. As long as you are comfortable and they are willing to let you stay why should you move? I do believe one should venture out on their own when they are ready, and if it takes you some extra time, so be it. Maybe start going out and joining some clubs in your area, donate your time at a local organization so you might be able to meet some nice people. Don't feel pressured because all of your friends are getting married. You just haven't met your other half yet. It may take time but just have fun a long the way and make some friends while your out!! :D
majnun99
It's nobody else's business.
Do what works for you and your parents.
I lived with my parents until I was about 29; I had a hard time finding a job that paid more than minimum wage. I tried to make a living as a piano tuner and musician and failed miserably. When I finally graduated from college and got a "real job" I moved out.
A lot of people made comments about it that made me feel bad. But that was a long time ago and I don't care anymore. I just didn't see any point in trying to live on minimum wage if I didn't have to.
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